How Open-minded Are You?

How would you react if you stumbled across a butt plug, as you(for whatever reason) rummaged around through your guy's personal things? What if a friend told you they saw your guy's profile on an adult site, where he advertised his proclivity for being screwed with a strap-on? Or his love of dressing up in women's lingerie? How would you react? 

Instead of threatening to shove that thing up his ass(it's a butt plug, remember? That's where HE'S shoving it) and leaving him for some "normal" guy, perhaps you're being a little close-minded. Why not have a chat with him about why he chose to hide this part of his life from you(and judging from your less than jovial reaction, that could be the main reason), and more importantly, what he REALLY enjoys sexually. Up to this point, your sex life with him has been vanilla(read: plain), butt, obviously this has gotten stale for him. So COMMUNICATE with him, ask him pointed questions as to what he really wants. Now isn't the time to be shy(unless you had an ulterior motive for going through his things). If you're at a loss of what to ask, consider the following sample questions:

• Are there some new things you would like to try sexually that you have been hesitant to ask me about?
• What have you fantasized about that you would consider doing?
• Do you enjoy cross dressing?
• Have you ever wanted to try a 3-way with myself and another woman?

There are many other pointed, specific questions you could ask of your guy, but the key is to have pointed, specific dialogue. They say, "Never ask a question that you aren't prepared to receive an answer for". So, once you receive the answers, how are you going to process them? Are you open-minded enough to try some of the things that turn him on? How open-minded are you willing to be? 

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