Do You Feel Sexy?

Ladies, when was the last time you looked in the mirror and told yourself, "Damn, you're SEXY!" When was the last time your guy told you that? While you don't NEED validation from a guy, it's always great to hear, no? You smile when a random stranger winks at you, smiles at you, and, whether you admit or not, when you're walking past a guy, he stops, stares, and makes a flattering comment.

Has that attention waned more recently? If so, why? DO YOU FEEL SEXY? Guys can sense when your self confidence, your sass, your sexiness isn't at it's peak. Perhaps the simple stresses of life have taken their toll on you. You've got responsibilities-career, perhaps children, volunteer work, etc., and you've lost some of yourself over time. How do we get you back?

When you first met your guy, what was the state of your appearance? Were you a bit more conscientious about your makeup application? Did you wear heels rather than the flats you currently wear? Did you dress sexier? Did you have less(or no) grey back then? Was your weight more under control then? These questions(especially the one about weight) aren't meant to be cruel, or demeaning in any way; rather, it's simply a realistic survey to see where we can pay more attention, and regenerate some of that passion and attention in your sexual relationship. Guys are visually stimulated.

If you answered yes to any of the previous questions, would you consider re-implementing some of your original tactics? How about a light makeover? Perhaps try something to accentuate your sexy eyes, those hips, those LIPS! Maybe consider a sexier hairstyle, or buying a dress or skirt that's shorter or tighter than your usual wardrobe. And if you've gained a bit of weight, so what? There are many full figured ladies that are absolutely BEAUTIFUL, and other than their beauty, you know what makes them sexy? Their ATTITUDE, their SWAGGER, their CONFIDENCE! That's what makes us guys take notice, gets our testosterone flowing, gets us in the mood to be all over you. That IS what you wanted, right?

My e-book: Modern Sex: What Guys REALLY Want, Why You Need to Know is available now! on my website, www.krebellow.com, or on Amazon.com

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How Open-minded Are You?

How would you react if you stumbled across a butt plug, as you(for whatever reason) rummaged around through your guy's personal things? What if a friend told you they saw your guy's profile on an adult site, where he advertised his proclivity for being screwed with a strap-on? Or his love of dressing up in women's lingerie? How would you react? 

Instead of threatening to shove that thing up his ass(it's a butt plug, remember? That's where HE'S shoving it) and leaving him for some "normal" guy, perhaps you're being a little close-minded. Why not have a chat with him about why he chose to hide this part of his life from you(and judging from your less than jovial reaction, that could be the main reason), and more importantly, what he REALLY enjoys sexually. Up to this point, your sex life with him has been vanilla(read: plain), butt, obviously this has gotten stale for him. So COMMUNICATE with him, ask him pointed questions as to what he really wants. Now isn't the time to be shy(unless you had an ulterior motive for going through his things). If you're at a loss of what to ask, consider the following sample questions:

• Are there some new things you would like to try sexually that you have been hesitant to ask me about?
• What have you fantasized about that you would consider doing?
• Do you enjoy cross dressing?
• Have you ever wanted to try a 3-way with myself and another woman?

There are many other pointed, specific questions you could ask of your guy, but the key is to have pointed, specific dialogue. They say, "Never ask a question that you aren't prepared to receive an answer for". So, once you receive the answers, how are you going to process them? Are you open-minded enough to try some of the things that turn him on? How open-minded are you willing to be? 

My e-book: Modern Sex: What Guys REALLY Want, Why You Need to Know is available now! on my website, www.krebellow.com, or on Amazon.com